Adopt kids from the US

topic posted Fri, June 3, 2005 - 1:38 PM by  My Body is a...
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this is a photolisting for US kids available for adoption - the fees assocaited are minimal and it is possible to do it for free and sometimes receive a stipend:

www.adoptuskids.org/servlet/page
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My Body is a Temple
San Diego
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  • Re: Adopt kids from the US

    Tue, June 7, 2005 - 8:15 AM
    We are in the process of adopting a child from Riverside County, in California. I'm pretty excited.
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      Wed, June 8, 2005 - 8:48 AM
      Wow - congratulations! How far along are you? Are you using an agency? DETAILS!
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        Wed, June 8, 2005 - 10:18 AM
        We are using DPSS from Riverside County CA. We are halfway done with our classes and already have our home approved. So then the home study and we are cool. I'm looking foreward to having a baby in the house. We want a child 2 years and under and will take sibling groups up to three kids. I have a step daughter 14 years old. She's cool with it. I was alittle nervous in teh begining, but I had a friend talk to me about how good it would be for all of us in our family. Since I don't have any children of my own and my step daughter was already in 4th grade when I married my wife, I never have ever learned that deep love that a parent has for a child. I think this will help me to undersand and develop that love inside me which will make me a better person. Plus I felt like I missed out not having any natural kids. I hope I didn't ramble to much.
        • Re: Adopt kids from the US

          Wed, June 8, 2005 - 3:54 PM
          Wow - that is really exciting. Kids are so much fun - they are so cool. You are brave to consider up to three siblings!

          I'm hoping to adopt at some point. My beau and I are going to have some biological kids - he feels very strongly that he wants to do that, though I would be just as happy adopting them all. We are considering having two bio kids then in about 10 years or so looking to adopt - possibly older kids and possibly a sibling group. If we get older kids (over 10 years) I want to wait until I have many years of parenting experience under my belt because I know they will be a behavioral challenge.

          Good luck Craig - hope it happens soon.

          I'm curious about the approval process - if you have something to share about that I'd be interested.

          I went through a home study to be a foster parent for dogs and it was extremely invasive. I can't imagine what they put you through to get a child!
          • EmO
            EmO
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            Re: Adopt kids from the US

            Tue, August 29, 2006 - 11:33 AM
            Ehm I just checked the AdoptUSKids-site and I feel..... sick. I mean, guys, what kind of laws do you have in your country? Meaning laws about personal privacy? And the site seems like totally accepted and supported by officials! I understand that there are websites that have pictures of cats and dogs that need new homes but having a site like that of people??? Publishing their pictures and names! And detailed information on their health and development! And that seems to be legal???

            In my country people publishing things like that would go to jail. Students in health and social sector are warned over and over again that they must never every give out any personal information on anybody they meet in their job. Revealing personal information of children living in foster homes would mean unemployment forever and probably prison. And in internet..... Honestly saying, this is the most amazing thing I've found from the net so far.

            Somebody explain this to me please!
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              Tue, August 29, 2006 - 12:16 PM
              Em0 - it's a very fine line. Do you let these kids languish in group homes and foster homes because no one knows they're there, or do you show them to the world so that their forever family can find them?

              But only first names are posted, not even the city they're in....try finding a girl named Destiny in Texas born in 2000 and you'd probably come up with thousands of children. It's not like there are real identifiers - no SSNs, no last names, no addresses. And adoptive parents need to know about medical and psych issues.

              A child that I fostered was found by a family half a continent away - they are the perfect family for him, and he for them. They NEVER would have known about him if he hadn't been on this site. He had several really big issues (too big for me, unfortunately, to keep him forever) that they needed to research and prepare for before moving forward with his adoption. It would have been totally unfair to him to send him to a family that wasn't aware of and prepared to address his issues. We remain in contact, and they always tell me how grateful they are that our social services department chose to put his picture and description up.

              I guess to me it's no different than the pics on the milk carton - you have to balance the right to privacy with the right to have a wonderful life.

              Just my $.02.

              Annie
              • EmO
                EmO
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                Re: Adopt kids from the US

                Tue, August 29, 2006 - 12:58 PM
                Maybe it's just that I do not quite understand the size of United States as a country and the amount of people there. To me it looks like they're very easy to identify, at least from pictures. In my country it would just be the mere idea of publishing people's information, not the factual possibility to truly find and locate the people. I've seen absent-minded lectures almost faint when they've accidentally shown slides of case histories with first name and age showing. Actually I can't remember ever hearing more beautiful apologies than then. And this reaction came when major students of psychology were having a lecture behind locked doors. You just don't show any real personal information. That's a rule.

                And what puzzles me with that site is that adoption is obviously available only to those who have already been through the application procedure, what you call it, home checks and all. So the target audience for that site are people who are already enrolled in some adoption system. How come they couldn't have at least a private website? Like, once you've through the adoption permission application whatever stuff you get your personal password to view the registries of available children? Why does that information have to be public to ALL people? If I was to decide, I would hide at least the pictures. Some information could be public, but health details and pictures should be accessed only with some sort of authorization. But well, that's just me.

                It is also difficult for me to relate to the idea of milk carton pictures. We don't have that either. Children gone missing is extremely rare and if something like that happens, it is a topic in national nine pm news. Even then it usually takes several days before child's photograph is published, unless the parents themselves demand it. There was just this case the other year when a child went missing from daycare home. The event was told about in the news with picture and personal info and later on the parents were angry about it. The missing child turned out to be dead and having his picture and personal details published in media was said to be traumatising to his parents. They regretted later on that they ever gave their child's picture to the news and after that the etiquette of personal information in media has been even stricter. If a child goes missing, you publish a description of the child but not the name or picture. That's how it usually goes here. Happens a couple of times in a year.

                But if it works and children are okay with it, then it's alright. But it truly amazes me.... Cultural differences...

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