wow, that sounds like it must have been hard. I don't quite understand why it's such an issue with some people. Deciding to adopt actually came pretty easily for me once I got past some of my fertility issues. My bro is the most awkward about the situation, he actually has said to me, "it's strange to me that you are bringing a child into the family that is not of our blood" and then went on about how him and his wife would not do it. You know, while at times it makes me angry at this kind of reaction, I totally realize that it has absolutely nothing to do with me, but my families own issues about blood relationships. I remember when I was a little girl, my brother would tease me and tell me that I was "the adopted one". So clearly, he has had these sort of feelings from a very young age. I don't know where it cam from because me on the other hand, has always been open to adoption. One of my best friends growing up was adopted and it was nothing strange or different to me because I saw how normal her family was. I think the thing I worry about is how my bro is going to react to our child once our child is here with is. I hope he can put aside his issues and welcome his little nephew or niece into the family like he would any beautiful soul that became a part of our family. I think trying to find a support group is so important ESPECIALLY if your family is not %100 behind you.